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| Jeanne's House of Angels Newsletter |
| Newsletter #6 April 19, 2007 |
| Featured Angels: Stillborn/SIDS |
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| The tiniest angels are the featured angels in this editiion of Jeanne;s House of Angels newsletter. Unlike previous editions there is no stories that can make us smile, but hopefully by the end of the story it will give some a sense of hope and peace. For some reason, these little angels were not meant to stay with their loving families. I was going to tell the story of one such child, but like all of these tiny angels, the stories are so very sad, that it would defeat the purpose of this newsletter, which is to help heal, to help with grieving, to perhaps put a smile on the face of someone who may especially need it that day. I have realized that the daily news is filled with stories of horror, stories that make you shake your head and wonder just what kind of world are we living in. The forums that we visit are again filled with sadness, loneliness, some of which make us question are desire to face another day. Jeanne's house of Angel's ,the website ,and this newsletter, was my way of trying to show that there are good things in the world, we just have to see past our grieve and loneliness to see it, So I have decided to take this one mother's story and fast forward to the future and what she truly believes will happen.
Let me start with a little background information. During her eigth month of pregnancy, the mother in our story was looking forward to the birth of her first child. Then, one night, she went into labor. Not having enough time to get to the hospital, an ambulance was called. The child was delivered before reaching the hospital. There was slight movement of the child, then complete stillness. The child, a girl, had died. There is no need to get into further detail, so we are going to fast forward into the future. After many years, the mother of the child that died was called home herself. She is met at the gate by many familar faces, family and friends that had preceeded her. There was also a very beautiful angel who told the mother, that she will be her guide through the gates. The angel started showing her beautiful gardens, filled with every flower and animal that God ever made. The angel looks at the mother and said, "Would you like to meet someone special?". The mother was filled with awe at the beauty surrounding her. She looks at the angel and nods. In her heart, she knows, who the special person is. The angel and the mother walk across a rainbow bridge and enter a very large nursery. Upon entering, the angel stops at the front desk and asks another angel for "the book". The angel brings back a book and hands it to the mother. On the front she sees "The life of my child" written in gold. She opens to the first page and sees a beautiful baby girl in the arms of an angel. The book is filled with pictures of the child laughing as many angels take turns singing her lullabies and rocking her. The mother's eyes well with tears as she realizes that her baby, that she always said was "lost", was never lost at all but being very well taken care of. She looks at the angel and without having to say anything, the angel takes her to this little room. There, another angel rises from a rocker, and gently places the laughing baby girl into the arms of her mother. Their eyes lock and they both know that they will never be separated again. |
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| People are often unreasonable, illogical, & self-centered;
Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, People may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. -Mother Theresa |
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| How Can You Cope with Grief?
Talk to family or friends Seek counseling Read poetry or books Engage in social activities Exercise Eat good foods Seek spiritual support Take time to relax Join a support group Listen to music Be patient with yourself Let yourself feel grief Each one of us has an individual style of coping with painful times. The list above may help you generate ideas about how to manage your feelings of grief. You may want to experiment with these ideas or create a list of your own. Talking to friends who have dealt with loss in the past can help you generate new ways of coping. Only you know what coping skills will fit best with your personality and lifestyle. One way to examine your own style of coping is to recall the ways you've dealt with painful times in the past. It's important to note that some ways of coping with grief are helpful, like talking to others, writing in a journal, and so forth. Others may be hurtful or destructive to the healing process, like substance abuse or isolation. Healthy coping skills are important in resolving a loss. They cannot take away your feelings of loss. They can, however, help you move forward in the healing process. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- How Can You Support Others Who Are Grieving? Be a good listener Ask about their feelings Just sit with them Share your feelings Ask about their loss Remember the loss Make telephone calls Acknowledge the pain Let them feel sad Be available when you can Do not minimize grief Talk about your own losses People who are grieving often feel isolated or lonely in their grief. Soon after the loss, social activities and support from others may decrease. As the shock of the loss fades, there is a tendency on the part of the griever to feel more pain and sadness. Well-meaning friends may avoid discussing the subject due to their own discomfort with grief or their fear of "making the person feel bad." They may "not know what to say." People who are grieving are likely to fluctuate between wanting some time to themselves and wanting closeness with others. They may want someone to talk to about their feelings. Showing concern and thoughtfulness about a friend shows that you care. It's better to feel nervous and awkward sitting with a grieving friend than to not sit there at all. |
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| By Digger
-------------- PAY SPECIAL ATTENTION TO THE WORDING AND SPELLING. IF YOU KNOW THE BIBLE EVEN A LITTLE, YOU'LL FIND THIS HILARIOUS! IT COMES FROM A CATHOLIC ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TEST. KIDS WERE ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT THE OLD AND NEW TESTAMENTS. THE FOLLOWING STATEMENTS ABOUT THE BIBLE WERE WRITTEN BY CHILDREN. THEY HAVE NOT BEEN RETOUCHED OR CORRECTED. INCORRECT SPELLING HAS BEEN LEFT IN. 1. IN THE FIRST BOOK OF THE BIBLE, GUINESSIS. GOD GOT TIRED OF CREATING THE WORLD SO HE TOOK THE SABBATH OFF 2. ADAM AND EVE WERE CREATED FROM AN APPLE TREE. NOAH'S WIFE WAS JOAN OF ARK. NOAH BUILT AND ARK AND THE ANIMALS CAME ON IN PEARS. 3. LOTS WIFE WAS A PILLAR OF SALT DURING THE DAY, BUT A BALL OF FIRE DURING THE NIGHT. 4. THE JEWS WERE A PROUD PEOPLE AND THROUGHOUT HISTORY THEY HAD TROUBLE WITH UNSYMPATHETIC GENITALS. 5. SAMPSON WAS A STRONGMAN WHO LET HIMSELF BE LED ASTRAY BY A JEZEBEL LIKE DELILAH. 6. SAMSON SLAYED THE PHILISTINES WITH THE AXE OF THE APOSTLES. 7. MOSES LED THE JEWS TO THE RED SEA WHERE THEY MADE UNLEAVENED BREAD WHICH IS BREAD WITHOUT ANY INGREDIENTS. 8, THE EGYPTIANS WERE ALL DROWNED IN THE DESSERT. AFTERWARDS, MOSES WENT UP TO MOUNT CYANIDE TO GET THE TEN COMMANDMENTS. 9. THE FIRST COMMANDMENTS WAS WHEN EVE TOLD ADAM TO EAT THE APPLE. 10. THE SEVENTH COMMANDMENT IS THOU SHALT NOT ADMIT ADULTERY. 11. MOSES DIED BEFORE HE EVER REACHED CANADA. THEN JOSHUA LED THE HEBREWS IN THE BATTLE OF GERITOL. 12. THE GREATEST MIRICLE IN THE BIBLE IS WHEN JOSHUA TOLD HIS SON TO STAND STILL AND HE OBEYED HIM. 13. DAVID WAS A HEBREW KING WHO WAS SKILLED AT PLAYING THE LIAR. HE FOUGHT THE FINKELSTEINS, A RACE OF PEO PLE WHO LIVED IN BIBLICAL TIMES. 14. SOLOMON, ONE OF DAVIDS SONS, HAD 300 WIVES AND 700 PORCUPINES. 15. WHEN MARY HEARD SHE WAS THE MOTHER OF JESUS, SHE SANG THE MAGNA CARTA. 16. WHEN THE THREE WISE GUYS FROM THE EAST SIDE ARRIVED THEY FOUND JESUS IN THE MANAGER 17. JESUS WAS BORN BECAUSE MARY HAD AN IMMACULATE CONTRAPTION. 18. ST. JOHN THE BLACKSMITH DUMPED WATER ON HIS HEAD. 19. JESUS ENUNCIATED THE GOLDEN RULE, WHICH SAYS TO DO UNTO OTHERS BEFORE THEY DO ONE TO YO U. HE ALSO EXPLAINED A MAN DOTH NOT LIVE BY SWEAT ALONE. 20. IT WAS A MIRICLE WHEN JESUS ROSE FROM THE DEAD AND MANAGED TO GET THE TOMBSTONE OFF THE ENTRANCE. 21. THE PEOPLE WHO FOLLOWED THE LORD WERE CALLED THE 12 DECIBELS. 22. THE EPISTELS WERE THE WIVES OF THE APOSTLES. 23. ONE OF THE OPPOSSUMS WAS ST. MATTHEW WHO WAS ALSO A TAXIMAN. 24. ST. PAUL CAVORTED TO CHRISTIANITY, HE PREACHED HOLY ACRIMONY WHICH IS ANOTHER NAME FOR MARRAIGE. 25. CHRISTIANS HAVE ONLY ONE SPOUSE. THIS IS CALLED MONOTONY. |
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| Angel Food Cake Recipe INGREDIENTS 1 cup cake flour 1 1/2 cups white sugar 12 egg whites 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1 1/2 teaspoons cream of tartar 1/2 teaspoon salt DIRECTIONS Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Be sure that your 10 inch tube pan is clean and dry. Any amount of oil or residue could deflate the egg whites. Sift together the flour, and 3/4 cup of the sugar, set aside. In a large bowl, whip the egg whites along with the vanilla, cream of tartar and salt, to medium stiff peaks. Gradually add the remaining sugar while continuing to whip to stiff peaks. When the egg white mixture has reached its maximum volume, fold in the sifted ingredients gradually, one third at a time. Do not overmix. Put the batter into the tube pan. Bake for 40 to 45 minutes in the preheated oven, until the cake springs back when touched. Balance the tube pan upside down on the top of a bottle, to prevent decompression while cooling. When cool, run a knife around the edge of the pan and invert onto a plate. |
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| TWELVE WAYS TO HELP
GET UNSTUCK FROM THE PAIN 1. Understand what you have gone through from the loss that has altered your life. 2. Beware of getting comfortable in immobility and avoid such traps as alcohol, drugs, and self-pity. These keep you locked in your place of pain. 3. Make an active choice early on to hold on to your personal power. 4. Reach out for support from those who love you -- family, friends, community groups. 5. Move on. Do something, any activity that gets you off self centeredness and helps you focus outward. 6. Add physical exercise to your daily activities. 7. Don't shut down. Be determined to go on with your life, recognizing the good things you have even as you may mourn what you have lost. 8. Incorporate humor and laughter into your life, recognizing their healing gifts. 9. Don't feel guilty about getting on with life, which includes laughter, fun, and success. 10. Be forgiving in order to become free. 11. Recognize and believe that life is more than worthwhile, it is a great adventure. 12. Trust that life has been created by a God who loves you, that it has meaning even if that meaning is couched in mystery. |
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The littlest angels that Heaven holds Were beckoned by God's will As emptiness in our soul unfolds In our hearts we love them still. Guardian angels hold them tight As the angel choir sings. Rocking them gently into the night Enveloped in their wings. They may be in the house of the Lord But our child they'll always be. For still there is the family cord And it's there for eternity. The day will come when you and I Will walk on Heaven's hill. Together we'll be hand in hand Loving each other still. ~DMN~ |
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| This is the sixth edition of "Jeanne's House of Angels"
newsletter. I would like to thank Keena for providing some of the inforamtion used in this edition of the newsletter.. If you would prefer not to receive a copy of the newsletter, please email me and I will remove you from the mailing list. The featured angel in our next newsletter edition will be Daniel Coorey.. AnnieHoo49@twcny.rr.com |
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| Links |
| Empty Cradles We are parents who have lived through the very same experience, whether that may be miscarriage or infant loss. We are here to provide you with support, understanding and information on how to cope with the death of your baby. |
| Miscarriage & Stillbirth Support Community Get immediate support from others like you • Create and share an anonymous journal • Learn about treatments and ways to cope • Get recommendations of medical professionals |
| SIDS Support |
| National SIDS/Infant Death Resource Center (NSIDRC) Our web site is your pathway to information and resources about Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) and other unexpected infant death, stillbirth, and miscarriage. |
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