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| Jeanne's House of Angels Newsletter |
| Newsletter # 7 4/26/2007 |
| Featured Angel: Daniel Coorey |
| Daniel Joseph Coorey was born in Qld Australia on May 8th 1986. He is survived by his Mother Marcelle, Father Glenn, Grandparents Joe and Jacky, Leo & Jenny, All his Aunties and Uncles, Cousins and friends.
I remember Daniel you being born at Royal Women’s hospital Brisbane Qld Australia. You were my pride and joy. Right from the beginning I loved you; it was going to be you and me against the world as I was a single mum. I remember I just used to love watching you sleeping. You were so beautiful. You were my first and only child. Daniel you such a kind, considerate, loving, unique and special child. As you grew up you had so many friends and was always wanting to help people. I watched you grow up and when you were 15 you got into smoking dope. You ended up developing a drug induced psychosis and then your illness decided to take over. I stood by you thick and thin and I would’ve given you the world or done anything for you if I knew it would have made you well. You moved back home to be with me 3 months before you died. I was so proud of you. I believe God gave me this time with you. The things I remember most was when we spent time playing scrabble, talking together & laughing with you. I loved being able to be there for you. I remember how much you loved listening to music even though I knew you did it a lot of the time to keep the voices out of your head. My darling boy, I miss walking past your room and seeing you sit on your bed. I even remember coming home from work and at the time I was thinking it was like coming home to a disco, with your music being up so loud. I would always ask you to turn it down a little bit, you would smile and say OK mum. When you started working I remember you would get home about 11.30pm and I would be still up. You would walk in the door and say hi to me, give me a kiss and a hug and say “I love you Mum”. Those words meant so much to me. When I would get home at lunch time, from work I would say hi to you and you would say, “It’s so good to see you mum” Daniel these words that you said to me will stay with me forever. I suppose there are lots of memories of Daniel but I think it was the little things that stood out the most. For these I am so grateful. You said Daniel, in your letter you wrote the night before you died, to tell all your family and friends that you will miss them all and I know Dan that they miss you as well. You said you were sorry you wouldn’t get to see all your cousins grow up. I know that they will always feel you watching over them. I also know Daniel that you took your life to stop the torment that you endured. The only bit of sunshine there is, is the fact I know you’re safe and the voices and delusions can’t hurt you anymore, and most importantly you can’t hurt yourself. My angel is at peace with the angels and God and Daniel I know you’ll be there watching over me with God. So to you Sweet boy I say Rest in Peace and remember I will be loving you and missing you forever. |
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| Daniel Trivia: Favorite Color - Blue Favorite Food – My mums spaghetti and Steak and mash potato Favorite Movie - Lord of the Rings, Scream, Star Wars, Comedies and horrors Favorite Song - All sorts of music…. Favorite TV - The Simpson’s, Favorite Hobby - Playing Chess, Playing X-Box, Using computer and spending time with mates playing pool and just having a good time….. |
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| Untiring Love
This is a true story that happened in Japan. In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan tears open the wall. Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls. When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built. What happened? The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years! In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years without moving a single step--since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating. Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth. Ahh! He was stunned and touched deeply. For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years... Such love, such a beautiful love! Such love happened even with this tiny creature ... What can love do? It can do wonders! Love can do miracles! Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner. Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can't. I was touched when I heard this story and started wondering about relationships between family members, friends, lovers, brothers, sisters. As information and communication technology advances, our access to information becomes faster and faster. But the distance between human beings . . . is it getting closer as well? I ask you...please never abandon your loved ones. LOVE is a gift, take it, let it grow. LOVE is a sign we should wear, let it show. LOVE is an act, do it, let it go. "When you look for the GOOD in others, you discover the BEST in yourself..." Samir |
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Court Talk The following excerpts were taken from Disorder in the American Courts, a book published by court reporters detailing actual, word-for-word transcripts from true cases. ATTORNEY: This myasthenia gravis, does it affect your memory at all? WITNESS: Yes. ATTORNEY: And in what ways does it affect your memory? WITNESS: I forget. ATTORNEY: You forget? Can you give us an example of something you forgot? *** ATTORNEY: How old is your son, the one living with you? WITNESS: Thirty-eight or 35, I can't remember which. ATTORNEY: How long has he lived with you? WITNESS: Forty-five years. *** ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that morning? WITNESS: He said, "Where am I, Cathy?" ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you? WITNESS: My name is Susan. *** ATTORNEY: The youngest son, the 20-year-old, how old is he? WITNESS: Uh, he's 21. *** ATTORNEY: Were you present when your picture was taken? WITNESS: Would you repeat the question? *** ATTORNEY: So the date of conception (of the baby) was August 8th? WITNESS: Yes. ATTORNEY: And what were you doing at that time? WITNESS: Uh.... *** ATTORNEY: She had three children, right? WITNESS: Yes. ATTORNEY: How many were boys? WITNESS: None. ATTORNEY: Were there any girls? *** ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated? WITNESS: By death. ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated? *** ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual? WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard. ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female? *** |
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| "In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."
- Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968) |
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| The Face of Courage, The Heart of Strength
by Joanne Cacciatore(c) 1998 What characteristics define courageousness and strength? Many would say that courage is facing inherent fears. A person with an intense fear of heights would be courageous to parachute from an airplane, wouldn’t he? Instead of running from the debilitating fear, he stood and faced it. And what about strength? A person with demonstrative strength, perhaps a professional body builder, will not run from a challenge. He works out everyday, learning the skills necessary to increase his potential and toning muscles in preparation to lift that arduous bar bell. The grief process has captivating similarities to the physical challenges posed to athletes. Yet, while athletes are admired and revered by society, many families in the grief process say they feel isolated within their own community. There is a misconception that compelling emotions should be repressed- that a person who openly shares tears is powerless and vulnerable. There are those individuals brandishing the “carry-on-chin-up” stoic posture after a tragedy. Too often, these individuals are praised for their courage and strength. Some are commended on how well they are doing with pat-on-the-back encouragement. They have seemingly “carried on” with life, and put the tragedy and pain behind them. Some are admired for maintaining such unemotional composure, mistaking this “business-like” acumen for courage and strength. Others remain surreptitious with their emotions thinking others will view them as weak. But take a look at the real defining characteristics of courage and strength. Does it take more courage and strength to bury the frightening and overwhelming emotions? Or does it take more courage and strength to deal with the grief- to look into the face of sorrow- to stare into the heart of pain? Those who have wept- really wept from the depths of the soul can answer that. Is there any emotion more harrowing, intimidating and physically exhausting as those experienced during those times of deep grief? Certainly not. So which individual is truly the strong and courageous one? It must be the one who faces the pain full force- the one who has the courage to tell others the truth about their sorrow- the one who, instead of running, stands and faces the inconceivable challenges of grief- the one who isn’t afraid to share the raw emotions of grief with others, to encourage understanding and compassion- the one who will reach out to others in grief and help carry another. Those are the defining attributes of true and indisputable courage and strength. |
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| Reuben Chicken
This is an awesome recipe from "Fast Frank" 8 chicken breasts, boned salt & pepper to taste 1 (16 oz) can sauerkraut 8 slices Swiss cheese thousand island dressing Preheat oven to 325F. degrees. Put the breasts in a greased or sprayed baking pan. Sprinkle with salt and pepper, if desired. Top with sauerkraut and Swiss cheese. Pour dressing evenly over cheese. Cover pan with foil and bake for 1-1/2 hours. Serves 8 |
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| Suicide Loss FAQs
An informational resource for suicide grievers |
| Survivors of Suicide Death, Grief & Healing |
| “Postvention” is a term used for supportive interventions that occur with bereaved families and friends following a suicide of a loved one. |
| Coping with Loss:
Guide to Grieving and Bereavement |
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| "Have you ever noticed? Anybody going slower than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac."
George Carlin. *********************************************** How Many Roads Must A Man Walk Down Before He Admits Hes lost? |
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| Life can seem ungrateful and not always kind.
Life can pull at your heartstrings and play with your mind... Life can be blissful and happy and free... Life can put beauty in the things that you see... Life can place challenges right at your feet... Life can make good of the hardships we meet... Life can overwhelm you and make your head spin... Life can reward those determined to win... Life can be hurtful and not always fair... Life can surround you with people who care... Life clearly does offer its Up and its Downs... Life's days can bring you both smiles and frowns... Life teaches us to take the good with the bad... Life is a mixture of happy and sad... So... Take the Life that you have and give it your best... Think positive, be happy let God do the rest... Take the challenges that life has laid at your feet... Take pride and be thankful for each one you meet... To yourself give forgiveness if you stumble and fall... Take each day that is dealt you and give it your all... Take the love that you're given and return it with care... Have faith that when needed it will always be there... Take time to find the beauty in the things that you see... Take life's simple pleasures let them set your heart free... The idea here is simply to even the score... As you are met and faced with Life's Tug of War |
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| From Daniel
I never meant to hurt anyone For I love you all so much. But I needed to end the pain My reality was so out of touch. I am in the House of the Lord My soul has finally been set free. I am now in total control To be who I was meant to be. There was nothing you could do That would have changed a thing. I am soaring through the skies And my heart is allowed to sing. I want you to know I love you mom For I left my heart behind. Your the best thing I had in my life But it was peace I needed to find. One day we'll be together Until then I will patiently wait. For the day I'll see you again As I stand by Heaven's gate. ~DMN |
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| Where Are You Going My Little Lamb?
"Phyllis Higginbotham" May 1998 Where are you going my little lamb? Why do you leave my side? You're much to little to travel alone, so why not with mother abide? For months you nestled beneath my heart, and my excitment and joy was unknown, yet before you've hardley tasted of life, you're leaving your mother alone our family was to have been complete when to you i had given birth, but now i see through anguished tears you were'nt meant to grow up on this earth What? ....speak louder my precious lamb, for i can hardly hear your voice, You say God missed you in heaven so much he had to make this sad choice. So now you've come to the river my child, and you must cross to the other side, go quickly,go quickly , my darling lamb,for my tears i'm unable to hide Now you turn and look into mother's face,and i feel your longing sensation, But wait ,,,there is more...there is joy untold, there is excitment and antisipation For you know you'll be back in your fathers arms, and no life on this earth can compare, to the joy, the happiness and the love that awaits MY baby up there. As i turn and i look to the rivers edge, i know you wont cross it alone, for Jesus is waiting with arms open wide to carry my angel back home. Oh yes, go swiftly, my darling child, for you must go on with out me' But one day soon we'll be together again and i'll hold you through eternity. |
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| This is the seventh edition of "Jeanne's House of Angels"
newsletter. I would like to thank Keena, Lynn, and Mary for providing some of the information used in this edition of the newsletter. A special thank you to Marcelle Coorey, Daniel's mother, in providing her memories of Daniel. If you would prefer not to receive a copy of the newsletter, please email me and I will remove you from the mailing list. The featured angel in our next newsletter edition will be Angelica Hatchell. AnnieHoo49@twcny.rr.com |